SEX Quotations from Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh

SEX

Quotations from 
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh 

Compiled and Edited by Ma Amrit Chinmayo 
(Pat Lear) 


INTRODUCTION 
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh is a liuing, enlightened Spiritual Master. 
His message is loue! 
Bhagwan's message is not new ... his methods are! 
And celebrating sex as a natural process of transformation is one of these methods. 
Bhagwan says that 'sex is to be used as a stepping stone' ... a stepping stone to 
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moue into loue, and from /oue into prayer. 
The following quotations represent part one of that three part message. 
First SEX ... then LOVE ... and then PRAYER. 
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Sex is not your creation: it is God's gift. 
It is fun! 
It is God's gift to enjoy ar,d celebrate. 
It is participating in the great festival that existence is. 
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Who told you that sex is dirty? 
All life exists through sex, all !ife grows out of it. 
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A flower looks so beautiful have you observed? 
That too is sexual. 
A bird singing in the morning near a saint's cottage or hermitage, looks 
beautiful, but have you observed that 
this singing of the bird is a sexual 
invitation? 
He is inviting the partner, seeking the partner, the lover. 
Wherever there is beauty there is sex. 
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Nothing is \%"rong in pure simple sex. 
It is natural. 
There is no need to hide it behind the beautiful word love. There is no need to create a cloud of romance around it. 
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It should be a pure phenomenon: two persons in that moment feeling that they would like to communicate on a deeper level, that's all. 
No obligation, no duty. no commitment through it. 


Sex should be playful and prayerful. 
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My approach is neither worldly nor other-worldly. 
My approach is not of rejecting something, but using it. 
My understanding is that whatsoever is given to you is precious. If it was not so, existence would not have given it to you. 
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I teach you how to go deep in love. 
I teach you how to go deep in sex too, because that is the only way to go beyond. 
People have become accustomed: they think religious people have to be against sex; and those who are not against sex, how can they be religious? ， 
These have become deadly settled 
categories. I am unsettling all those 
categories, and I don't expect the 
world to immediately change so much 
from its settled patterns of mind. 
So, I don't expect them to understand me either. When they misunderstand, 

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It will take years or centuries for them . to understand me, but this always happens. 
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Even in this twentieth century, people are living with immense ignorance about sex --even people you would think should know better. 
Even your doctor does not really know what sex is, does not know its complexity. He should know, but even doctors live very superstitiously. They also know things from the market place. 
In no medical college is sex taught as a separate s，ubject. Such an immense, powerful subject, and yet not taught. 
Yes, the physiology of sex is known by the physician, but the physiology is not all. 
There are deeper layers: there is 
psychology, there is spirituality; there is 
is a psychology to sex, and th~re is a 
spirituality to sex. 
The physiology is only the surface. 
The word 'sex' is very beautiful. 
The original root of the word sex 
means division --sex means division. 
If you are divided inside, then sex 

will be there. 
When you hanker after a woman or a man, what is happening? Your one part is hankering to meet the other part but you are trying to meet the other outside. 
You can meet for a single moment, but again you will be alone, because outside there can be no eternal meeting. Sex is bound to be just momentary because the 
other is the other. 
If you meet your inner woman or man inside then the meeting can be eternal. And when all divisions are lost this 
meeting happens. 
This is an alchemical transformation: 
your woman and man meet inside and 
you become one. And when you are one, 
you will have love. 
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My whole effort here is to make you bored with sex. 
Because if you are bored with sex only then can you become interested in God, never otherwise. 
A repressed person remains interested in sex, that's why I am against repression. You will be surprised, but this is my logic, this is my mathematics. 
A repressed person remains interested in sex, remains obsessed with sex, so I say have all sex that you can have and soon you will be finished with it. 
And when you are finished with it and sex loses all meaning, that will be a great day, a great moment in your life. 

 


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Ninety-nine percent know sex only as a relief; they don't know its orgasmic quality. 
Even if they think they are having an orgasm, it is not orgasm --it is just genital relief. 
Orgasm has nothing to do with genitals as such. Genitals are involved in it, but orgasm is total--from the head to the toes, it is aII over you. 

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Ejaculation is not orgasm. 
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It is a very local release, a sexual release --it is not orgasm. 
A release is a negative phenomenon you simply lose energy --and orgasm is a totally different thing. 



What is orgasm? 
Orgasm is a state where your body is 
no longer felt as matter; it vibrates 
like energy, electricity. 
It vibrates so deeply, from the very 
foundation, that you completely forget 
that it is a material thing. It becomes 
an electric phenomenon. 
Now physicists say that there is no matter, that all matter is only appearance; deep down, that which exists is electricity, not matter. 
In orgasm, you come to this deepest layer of your body where matter no longer exists, just energy waves; you become a dancing energy, vibrating. There are no longer any boundaries to you-？pulsating, but no longer substantiaJ. And your beloved also pulsates . 

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That is the meaning of the sexual orgasm -？that your frozen energy melts, becomes one with this universe, with the trees and the stars. arid the womari and the mar1. arid the rocks --for a sir1gle moment. of course. 
But in that moment you have a kind of consciousness that is religious, that is holy, because it comes from the whole. 


Now, sexual orgasm needs time --the longer, the better; because then it will go deeper into your being, into your mind, into your soul. 
Then it will spread from the toe to the head ... every fiber of your body will be throbbing with it. Your whole body will become an orchestra and it will come to a crescendo. 
But if you are in a hurry the orgasm becomes just an ejaculation, it is no more an orgasm. It is local and very tiny, almost meaningless. In fact you will feel tired, frustrated, depressed after it, because the energy is lost and it has not given you a bath, so it was just meaningless. 

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You remain the old --a little more tired 
of course, with less energy of course, 
but you remain the san1e. It has not been 
a cleansing process, it has not thrilled 
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Millions of women have lived and died without knowing that they have the capacity to experience orgasm. 
And without knowing that you can have 
great orgasmic explosions you will not be able to understand anything of spirituality; it will be almost impossible for you. 

When the woman cannot have orgasm, the man cannot have it really either, because orgasm is a meeting of the two. 

Only two, when they melt into each 
other, can have it. It is not that 
one can have it and the other may 
not have it --it is not possible. 
Release is possible, ejaculation is possible; relief is possible, but 
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Orgasm is not a relief: orgasm is a celebration. 
And orgasm is a meeting of you, through the other, with the whole. 
Orgasm is always divine .， the other becomes the door and you enter into the divine. 
Orgasm is always spiritual, it is never sexual. 
Those who think that orgasm is sexual have not understood anything at all; they don't know anything about orgasmic 
experiences. 
Orgasm is always samadhi. ecstasy. 
But people don't know because they 
meet out of need. not out of overflowing 
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When you think of orgasm it becomes a purpose, it is more businesslike and then orgasm becomes difficult. 

This is the dilemma: if you are after ， orgasm, it becomes difficult because 
you are looking out for it, hankering 

for it and you are not total in the act. Your mind is looking towards orgasm: you are thinking about whether you are going to make it this time or not and that fear paralyzes the sex center. ,, 
The sex center can only open really when there is no fear, when there is no question of any result. when one is not thinking of any future, when the activity is not goal-oriented, when you are simply playing. It is beautiful to play with somebody's body and have somebody play with your body. 
Just two bodies dancing, singing, hugging, caressing is a beautiful symphony, there is no need to think about orgasm. And then it will happen! 
This is the beauty of it, then it will happen. But whether it happens or not is irrelevant. Simply forget about it. 
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Why should there be a difference in techniques for men ar:id women? 
Because they are different_ 
They are as different as possible. They are polar opposites. The whole physiology. the whole psychology, every layer of the femiriine consciousness is different from man's --not only different, just the opposite. 
Totally different techniques should be developed, totally different techniques but because man and woman live so near, so close together, they go on forgetting that they are different. 
Nothing is similar, and it is good that nothing is similar. because that's why they can become one circle of energy. They are con1plementary, they fit into each other. 

When I say a man and woman are two 
counterparts of one whole, I mean 
they are complementary. 
And the complementariness is possible only when their opposite poles meet. 
Look at it in this way: the vagina is 
the negative pole in the feminine body 
and the breasts are the positive pole. 
This is the rod of magnetism: the positive pole near the breasts, the negative pole near the vagina. 
For man the negative pole is at the breasts, and the positive pole is at the penis. 
So when breasts meet --male and female negative and positive are meeting; and 
' when sex centers rneet in coitus, negative and positive are meeting. 
Nm,v both magnetic rods are meeting at 
their opposite poles, now there is a 
circle --the energy can flow, the energy can move. 

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But this circle will happen only when a man and woman are in love. 
If they are not in love, then only their sex centers will meet --one positive pole will rne,et with one negative pole. 
There, will be an exchange of energy, but linear. A circle cannot be made. That's why without love you never feel satisfied. 
Sex without love becomes just a trifle. It is not deep moving. Energy moves, but in a line ，， a circle is not made. And when a circle is there you become one, not before. 
When you are deep in love, then breasts 
also meet, never before. 
So the sex act is very easy, the love act is more complex. The sex act is just physical -， two energies meeting and dissipating. Hence, if there is only sex, sooner or later you will feel frustrated: you waste energy and nothing is gained. 
The gain happens only when there is a circle. 
If the circle is totally there, then both the partners will come out of the sex act more energetic. more alive, more charged, with more energy flowing. 
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They have lost energy. Sleep will follow because all they are feeling is weak. ， 
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In this 'one pole meeting', men are at more of a loss than women. That's why women can become prostitutes .？
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because the positive pole is man and 
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Energy flows from man to woman but not vice-versa. So a woman can be in twenty or thirty sex acts in one night, a man cannot. 
So to me, if prostitution is bad it is not because of prostitution, it is because a circle is impossible. You are not charged. You simply waste your energy. 
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Man always likes to enter the woman 
immediately. 
He is not interested in foreplay because 
his positive pole is always ready. And 
women are always reluctant to enter into 
the sex act immediately, without any 
foreplay , because the!r negative pole is 
not ready. And it cannot be ready. 
Unless the man starts loving the woman from the breasts, the negative pole will not be ready. They can yield but they will not participate. 
And man thinks the sex act is simple. Why waste time? Enter the woman immediately and he is finished within minutes. But the woman was not a part, she was not aroused. 
That's why women have a hankering that their lovers should touch their breasts, love their breasts--a deep hankering. Only when their breasts have become filled with energy does their second pole of the magnetic rod, which is negative, respond. 
Then they are alive to it, then they can participate, then communication is possible--and then they will melt. 
Foreplay is a must. 
Marriages become dry because in the beginning when you meet a new woman you play with her body before. 
You are not certain whether she will allow you a direct approach, so you play. You just feel the ground to see whether she is ready. 
But when she is your wife, you take her for granted --there is no need. 
Wives are so dissatisfied with their husbands, not because their husbands are not loving, but because they are wrongly loving. 
They dori't think that a woman exists in 
a different way; that her body responds 
in a different way just opposite to them. 
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People don't move towards love-making in steps. 
Two persons are sitting, and suddenly they start making love. It is so abrupt and it is very abrupt for the woman. 
For the man it is not so abrupt because man's energy is a different type of energy, and man's sexuality is more local. 
The woman's sexuality is more total; her whole body has to be involved in it. So unless it is preceded by a foreplay, a woman never goes deeply into it. 
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It does not reach to his soul, it does not reach to his whole body. All his cells and all the fibers of his being are not thrilled, are not in a dance. It is poor, very poor. 
It is a release, a relief, but not an orgasmic experience. 
Sex Is beautiful. sexuality ugly. 
When sex becomes cerebral. when sex enters into your head, it becomes sexuality. Now the head Is not the center for sex. Sex is not the function of the head. 
But when sex enters in through the head it becomes sexuality. Then you think about sex, then you fantasize about sex. And the more you think, the more you 
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into trouble. 
That is the problem the West is feeling; 
it has fantaslzced too much about sex. 
The West has become sexual through 
fantasy, the East has become sexual 
through repression. Both have become 
sexual and both have lost the natural 
capacities of enjoying sex. 
Both have become pathological through 
different routes. The West has become 
pathological by fantasizing sex to be 
the ultimate goal of life, and the East 
has become patho!ogical by thinking that 
sex is the ultimate barrier between God 
and man. 
Sex is neither. It is neither the ultimate 
goal nor the ultimate barrier. Sex is a 
simple phenomenon like hunger or thirst. 
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the western mind --that the man has 
to satisfy the woman and the woman has 
to satisfy the man. 
Now both are disturbed. 
So the man is looking to see whether 
the woman is satisfied. If she is not satisfied, something is lacking in him; 
he i.s not man enough. 
And when you st.art feeling that you are not man enough you are going in the wrong direction --more and more difficulties will arise. You will start becoming shaky; you will lose confidence. 
And the woman goes on looking to see whether she is satisfying the man or not. If she feels the man is not satisfied, or if she feels the man has not attained to that ecstasy that is preached all around the world now, she feels that something is missing in her. 
Now both become disturbed and a beautiful act of love is corrupted . 
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Then there is another problen1: people are making love too much. 
They have made it almost routine. 
The idea that sex is very hygienic has been given by medical authorities. If you don't make love every day something will go wrong. 
Now they say that even a heart attack is possible if you don ，t make love enough. 
It should be a rare thing, a feast. It should not be made routine; it should not be everyday food . One should preserve it for some rare occasions when you are really flowing, when there is a different space. 
One should keep it as a present for rare moments. otherwise life becomes very boring. 
Mn1m? just as you eat every day and you drink your tea and you take your bath, you make love also. 
Then one finds it !boring --everything is the same. 
Make love only when there is tremendous desire and passion, otherwise simply say, ' Excuse me. it is not there, so what is the point?' 
Pretending is not good. 
And if you stop pretending, you will find that your depth of love-making has increased very much. 

People are repeating too much what they call love-making, because they are never satisfied. 
In India, the ancient-most text about sex, Vatsyayan's 'Kama Sutra', says 
that if you make really wild love, once a year is enough! 
It will look almost impossible for the modern man -， once a year? 
And they.were not people who were suppressing in any way. Vatsyayan is the first sexologist of the world, and the first who brought meditation to sex; the first who came to realize its deepest tenters. 
And he is right. If really the affair goes to the extreme, once a year is almost enough. It will satisfy you so deeply that the after-glow will continue for months. 
,,  Ifyou are hurried in everything, you will be hurried in your sex act also, because YOU will be there. A person who is very much time？conscious will be hurried in his sex act also --as if time is being wasted. So we ask for instant coffee and for instant sex. With coffee it is good, but with sex it is simply nonsense. There can be no instant sex. It is not work and it is not something which you can hurry. Through hurry you will destroy it; you will miss the very point. Enjoy it because through it a timelessness is to be felt. Ifyou are in a hurry; then the timelessness cannot be felt . .  '  

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Sometimes it happens that the other 
person's energy does not turn you on. 
Now. he cannot do anything about it, 
you cannot do anything about it; it 
simply does not happen . 
In the natural course, one should find 
somebody else by whom one is turned on . 
But the society, the culture, the religion 
and the tradition, all those things, 
prevent it. 
And sometimes we also start clinging to each other even though we are not turned on: it is convenient, comfortable. There is the child whom you both love, so there i~ ~till more complexity in it. 
But If you go on repressing, then you will bu angry. You may show it, you may not show it, but the anger will remain there ... a resentment. 
Sometimes if you want to will an erection that very will will be the hindeTance. 
You cannot will it. It is something that is beyond your will, and if you try to bring it you will find yourself completely impotent. 
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There is no need to will it. If it is 
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Simply listen to the body and go with the body! 
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Let love be something special --it is 
special. 
And wait for right moments. People almost always choDse the wrong moment. 
My observ<ltion is: whenever the couple 
fight, after fighting they make love. 
First they become angry then they fight 
with each other; then they start feeling 
guilty about why they are doing this to 
each other. 
Then they start hating themselves for not behaving rightly. Just to compensate they make love. This is almost a routine: couples fight and then they make love. 
You cannot find a more wrong situation in which to make love. How can it be satisfying? 
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Positions are irrelevant; positions are not very meaningful. The real thing is the attitude -？not the position of the body, but the position of the mind. For example, the man is always on the woman -？on top of the woman. This is an egoist posture because the man always thinks he is better, superior, higher. How can he be below the woman! But all over the world, in primitive societies, the woman is above the man. So in Africa this posture is known as the missionary posture because for the first time, when missionaries-？Christian missionaries？-went to Africa, the primitives just could not understand what they were doing. They thought it would kill the woman.  - 

The man-on-top posture is known in 
Africa as the missionary posture. 
African primitives say this is violent ，， 
that man should be on top of the woman. 
She is weaker, delicate, so she must be 
on top of the man. 
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hin1self lower than woman --under her. 
Positions will change, but do not be bothered about positions much, just change your mind. 
Surrender to the life force; float in it. Sometimes, if you are really surrendered, your bodies will take the right position that is needed in the n1oment. 
If both partners are deeply surrendered, 
their bodies will fake the right posture that is needed. 
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Loving your woman, melt into her warmth. 
For a moment forget sexuality, for a moment forget all that goes on in your head, in your fantasy. 
For a moment just melt into the real woman. 
Don't carry any pornography in your head, don't make sexuality something cerebral. Let your sexuality be a deep sensuousness, sensitivity, a gut feeling. 
Melt into the woman, as if you are again a child in the mother's womb. Unless you have known this with your beloved, you have not known your beloved. 
Be like a child again in the mother's 
womb. absolutely together with her, all distances gone. And in that moment you 
will know what surrender is. 
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try to prove anything. 
Don't try to prove anything --because when you start trying to prove, your 

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While you are making love to a woman 
forget all about the fact that you 
are a man and she is a woman. Let 
boundaries merge and mix. 
Don't ren1ain a man, otherwise you will miss --because again a dualism comes in; you are the man and she is the woman. 

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There are many who think they are impotent but it is very rare that there is an impotent person. 
For him I really feel comp.assion because he has no energy to be transformed, no energy to be transformed with. 
He will miss that joy. He will miss that joy that comes through sex and he will miss that joy that comes by going beyond it. He is really pitiable. 
But it is very rare. Out of a hundred impotent people ninety-nine percent simply believe that they are impotent. 
All sorts of animals are having orgasm ... from the smallest to the biggest elephant, and nobody
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Worry makes one impotent.
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Premature ejaculation is really not J a sexual problem .at all; it is more a psychological problem. 
Physiologically there is nothing wrong 
but psychologically you are in a hurry; 
that very hurry creates premature 
ejaculation. 
In the West almost 70% of men suffer from it. It is not a small problem, 70% is a great majority. In fact there are a few people who have started thinking that premature ejaculation is normal because 70% ... it must be normal. In fact those 30% of people must be having something wror,g; the normal means the average. 
And these 70% will become 80%, 90% soon; their number is growing. 
Never before in the history of man has premature ejaculation been such a problem as it has become in the West-？and particularly more so in A.merica. Because for the first time a civilization is in a hurry, for the first time a civilization is too time-conscious. 
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In the East people have never suffered from premature ejaculation because things move so slowly and nobody is in a hurry. 
There is enough time, mo.re than enough; eternity is available. The Eastern concept that after you die you will be born again and again and again. gives a very long time. great duration. 

The Western idea that there is only one life makes you very feverish. Just one life.? . so you have to make everything out of it immediately, otherwise it will be gone! So everything has to be fast, quick. 
That mir1d brings this problem. so that mind is working there and making . 
everything quick. It goes on giving directions from deep within: to do it quickly, be fast, finish soon. 
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There is this constant hankering for things to be instantaneous. It makes it appear as if the only thing in life is how to do a thing with great speed. 
But all great things need slowness, patience, otherwise you miss. They need time so that you can get saturated . 
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Why has rnan so n1any ways of relating heterosexual, bisexual. one-to-one or in a group? 
l\-1an has freedom to choose. 
And this choice c,an make you pathological or this choice can make you a Buddha. 
Now it depends on you, how you use your freedom. 
- I am simply saying that if you have to live your sex you can choose your style, you are free to choose your style. If you decide to be stupid, at least you should be given the freedom of what kind of stupid you want to be! I give you total freedom. My effort here is to help you to go beyond it, so if you are homosexual you have to go beyond homosexuality; if you are heterosexual you have to go beyond heterosexuality. And there are also other people who are neither, who are auto-erotic, auto-sexual. They have to go beyond their auto-eroticism. Man has to transcend sex, whatsoever kind of sex it is, because unless you go beyond your biology you will never know your soul.  

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If a person has found his way, his style, his life, then sex problems disappear. 
Sex problems exist only because your life energy is moving in a direction where you don't enjoy its movement. 
For example, you go on doing a certain kind of work and you don't like it; on the contrary, you hate it from your very guts. And this becomes chronic, because every day you go on doing the same work that you hate. 
Then suddenly, if one day you start doing the work that you love, you will be surprised by the ecstasy that will arise ;n you. 
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love, prayer, meditation, relationship ，， everything! 
This is my observation --that the 
attitude towards sex is a very 
symbolic attitude; itshows everything 
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Up to now societies have been so much against sex --religions and churches all against it --that they have created a very very unconscious 
hatred. 
You may not be aware of it consciously, you may not see it anywhere in your mind so that you can detect it. 
It ha.s gone to the very roots of the 
body, to the very gut level, because 
it has been for centuries that people 
have been taught to be against sex. 
That hatred has to be dropped, that hate and condemnation has to be dropped, and that can only be dropped if you start learning a reverence for sex. 

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It happens to many people in childhood that sex is repressed. 
No child is allowed --no society allows it. He is not allow'ed to touch his own genital organs, he is not allowed to play with them. 
That happens so early that you cannot even remember it. ， 
The child in the crib is playing with his genital organ, and the mother comes and takes his hand away. Now, it is a shock to the child; he starts becoming afraid of touc~ing his own genital organs. 
And it is such a joy to touch it ... it is 
so relaxing. The child gets non-sexual 
orgasm through it; it is. orgasmic. 
And the natural urge is to touch the genital, to play with it; it is so beautiful. And the child has no idea that it is wrong, he has no idea of guilt yet; he simply does whatsoever is natural. 
Again and again, and again he has to be stopped, again and again he has to be condemned. He can see the rejection on the mother's face, on the father's face, and by and by the energy shrinks and he becomes afraid. 
Sexual energy comes to its climax near about the age of eighteen. 
Never again will a man be so potent, and never again will a woman be able to have a greater orgasm that she will be able to near the age of ,eighteen. 
But w-e force them not to make love. We force boys to have their sep~rate dormitories. Girls and boys are kept 1 separate and just between the two stands the whole mechanism of police, magistrates, vice-chancellors, principals, head-masters. 

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The very word 'facts of life' is a 
euphemism; it simply hides a simple 
thing ，--not to say anything about 
sex. 
Even to avoid the: word 'sex', they 
have made this metaphor: facts of life. 
What facts of life? Just not to tell 
anything about sex. The whole past of 
hum.anity has lived with that deception. 
But the children sooner or later discover -？
and in fact they discover sooner than later. 
And they discover in a very wrong way, 
because no right person is ready to tell, so 
they have to do the:ir work on their own. 
They collect, they become Peeping Tom.s -~ 
and you are responsible for reducing them 
into Peeping Toms. And they collect from 
all the wrong sources, from ugly people. 
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And there are many dangers in it. 

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interested in pornography --which has happened all over the world --then the real woman does not look so appealing and the real man does not look so appealing. 
Then a great problern arises: your fantasy needs the woman that you have seen in Playboy magazine. but you cannot find that woman anywhere --whatsoever you find will fall short. 
Now nothing will satisfy you. Slowly slowly reality becomes unreal and the unreal becomes more real. 
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A r:nan who has rep.ressed his sex can become a good soldier because the energy is there and he wants to penetrate people. The bayon.et is nothing but a phallic symbol. Now this is obscene -？to kill a man. To me violence is the only obscenity. It is beautiful to penetrate a woman's body, to be penetrated by a man's body -？it is beautiful. But by a bayonet? -？it is ugly. But if you repress sex then you can make a good soldier. That's why in all armies sex is repressed; the most repressive army will be the most powerful army.  t '  

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To be orgasmic means the capacity to 
lose control. 
The constant control is there, you 
c1re simply sitting on your energies 
controlling them.... 'This should be, 
this should not be. This is right, that 
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You are continuosly doing that. 
inhibiting, repressing. 
Only go so far, beyond that is danger, 
only this much is allowed. How can you 
be orgasmic? 
And if you are not orgasn1ic in other things, you cannot be orgasrnic in sex. If in your anger you control. then you cannot be orgasmic in sex. 
If you can be orgasmic in anger. only then can you b{e orgasmic in sex. Man is a totality. If you cannot get into a rage, how can you get into love? Impossible. 
A natural man is orgasmic in all his emotions. 
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We suppress movements. Particularly, 
all over the world, we suppress all 
movements, all shaking for women. 
They remain just like dead bodies. 
You are doing something to them; they 
are not doing anything to you. They 
are just passive partners. 
Why is this happening? Why all over 
the world do men suppress women in 
such a way? 
There is fear --because once a woman's body becomes possessed, it is very difficult for a man to satisfy her; because a woman can have chain orgasms; a man cannot have. 
Any woman can have at least three orgasms in a chain, but man can have only one. And with a man's orgasm the woman is aroused and is ready for further orgasms. 
Then it is difficult. Then how to manage it! 
She needs another man immediately, and group sex is a taboo. 
All over the world we have created monogamous societies. We seem to feel that it is better to suppress the woman. : 
So, really, 80% to 90% of women never know what orgasm is. 
They can give birth to children; that is'another thing. They can satisfy the man; that is also another thing. But they themselves are never satisfied. 
So if you see such bitterness in women all over the world ，， sadness, bitterness,
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Their basic need is not fulfilled. 
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Eating can give you a sexual pleasure, 
b-e-cause the sex center and the mouth 
are both joined together. 
That is why kissing is such a sexual 
thing. Otherwise --why? And if you 
are passionately kissing somebody, 
immediately you will feel sex energy 
arising. 
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Why? --because mouth and sex are so far apart? They are not, they are joined, they are two poles of one energy. 
So whenever you starve the sex pole, 
, the whole energy moves to the mouth. You will have to eat more, chew gum, 
o.r something. 
Or, if nothing else, you will have to talk continuously, because b-y talking the mouth moves. That is why people go on talking continuously the whole day. Even the day is not enough; if you sit by their side during the night, you will see they are talking. 
If one pole of energy is stopped, then the other starts because the energy has to be released somehow. You cannot contain it. 
If the sexual energy is flowing 
perfectly well then everything hums 
rightly, everything remains in 
accord. 
Then you are simply in tune, vibrating, and there is a kind of equilibrium. 
Once the sexual energy is getting stuck somewhere there are repercussions all 
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And naturally they will come first in the head, because sex is one pole and 
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the head is another pole --it is a ' polarity. 
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By and by sex starts being transformed into a higher plane. 
You become more creative --you start creating something --a painting, a poetry, a music playing on the instrument or something. 
This is not repression ... this is expression. 
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In the West, particularly since Freud opened Pandora's box, the idea has arisen that you have to remain sexual to the very end, because sex is synonymous with life. 
So even if you are seventy or eighty, you have to remain interested in sex. 
If you lose intere，st in sex, that means you are losing interest in life, that means you are no more needed, that ' means you are useless now. 
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This idea that sex and life are synonymous is utterly baseless. 
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Old age has its own beauties, its own I treasures, just as youth has its own beauties and treasures. 
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Sex becornes mature when you are 
fourteen. 
It takes fourteen ye.ars from birth 
to sex. And it is exactly the same 
at the other end. 
It takes fourteen years from sex to 
death. 
So if you are sixty-five and the interest in sex is naturally going away-？beautiful, very good! 
Now you have to prepare for the other journey, for the further shore. Maybe: only fourteen, fifteen ye.ars are left. By the time you are eighty you will be gone. 
By going, sex gives the hint --now start getting ready for death. 

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One has to go beyond sex one day, but the way beyond goes through it, and if you never go into it rightly, it is very difficult to go beyond it. 
So going through it is part of going beyond. 

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When sex is just an unconscious, mechanical urge in you, it is wrong. 
Remember, sex is not wrong; the mechanicali1ess of it is wrong. 

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If you can bring some light of intelligence into your sexuality, that light will transform it. 

It will not be sexuality anymore ' " it will be something totally different, 
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In the East we have a word for it, Tantra. 
In the West you don't have a word for it. 
When sex becomes joined together, is yoked with intelligence, a totall~, new energy is created --that energy is called Tantra. 
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If you are too much technique？
oriented you will miss the mystery 
of Tantra. 
Tantra has to be a_non-doirJg; it cannot be technical. 
You can learn te-chniques --you can learn a certain breathing so that the coitus can become longe.r. If you breathe very very slowly, if you breathe without any hurry, then the coitus will become longer. 
But you are controlling. It will not be wild and it will not be innocent. And it will not be meditation either. It will be rnind . 
Real Tantra is not technique but love. Is net technique but prayer. Is not head？oriented but a relaxation into the hea.rt. 
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In a Tantra coitus you can remain 
for hours. 
The object is to become so con1pletely 
instinctual, so mindless, that we merge 
with ultimate nature --that the wornan 
disappears and becomes a door for the 
ultimate. the man disappears and becomes 
a door for the ultimate. 
This is the Tantra definition of our 
sexuality: the return to absolute 
innocence, absolute oneness. 
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Tantra gives you a dimension of a higher relaxation which is positive. 
Both partners melting with each other give vital energy to eac~ other. 
They become a circle, and their energy begins to move in a circle. They are giving life to each other, renewing life. 
No energy is lost. Rather, more energy is gained because through the contact with the opposite sex your every cell is challenged, excited. 
And if you can merge into that excitement without leading it to a peak, if you can remain in the beginning without becoming hot, just remaining warm,then these two 'warmths' will meet and you can prolong the act for a very long time. 
With no ejaculation, with no throwing 
energy out, it becomes a meditation, 
and through it you become whole. 
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There are two types of climaxes, two 
types of orgasm. 
One type of orgasm is known. You reach 
to a peak of excitement, then you cannot 
go further: the end has come. 
Tantra is centered on another type of . orgasm. 
If we call the first kind a peak orgasm, you can call the Tantric orgasm a valley orgasm. In it you are not coming to the peak of excitement, but to the very deepest valley of relaxation . 
Excitement has to be used for both in the beginning. That is why I say that in the beginning both are the same, but the ends are totally different. 
For the first, excitement has to be intense --more and more intense. 
You have to grow in it; you have to help it to grow toward the peak. 
In the second, excitement is just a beginning. And once the man has 
entered, both lover and beloved can 
relax. No movement is needed. They 
can relax in a loving embrace. 
When the man feels or the woman feels 
that the erection is going to be lost, only then is a little movement and 
excitement required. But then again 
relax. 
You can prolong this deep embrace for hours with no ejaculation, and then both can fall into deep sleep together. 
This --THIS --is a valley orgasm. 
Both are relaxed, and they meet as two relaxed beings. 
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The ordinary sexual orgasm looks like madness; the tantric orgasm is a deep, relaxing meditation. 
You can indulge as rnuch as you like because no energy is lost. Rather, energy . is gained. 
Just by meeting with the opposite pole energy is renewed. 
The tantric love act can be done as much . I as you like. The ordinary sex act cannot \I be done as much as you like because you 
are losing energy in it, and your body 
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will have to wait to regain it. 
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When I say ，sex act' it looks like you need an effort. 
You do not! 
Just start playing with your beloved or your lover; just go on playing. Feel each other, be sensitive to each other, just like small children playing or just dogs playing --animals playing. 
Just go on playing, and do not think about the sex act at alL It may happen. it may not happen. 
If it happens through just playing, it will lead you to the valley more easily. If you think about it, then you are already ahead of yourself: you are playing with your beloved, but you are THINKING of the sex act, then the playing is false. You are n_ot here and the mind is in the future, and this mind will always move in the future. 
Just play, and forget about any sex act. It will happen. Then allow it to happen. Then it will be easy to relax, and when it happens just relax. Be together. 
Be in each other's presence and feel happy. 

There are two parts to the sex act the beginning and the end. 
Remain with the beginning. 
The beginning part is more relaxed, warm. But do not be in a hurry to move to the end. Forget the end completely. 
How to remain in the beginning? 
Many things are to be rernembered. First, don't take the sex act as a way of going anywhere. Don't take it as a means: it is an end in itself. There is no end to it; it is not a means. 
Secondly, do not think of the future; 
remain with the present. And if you 
cannot remain in the present in the 
beginning part of the sex act, then you 
can NEVER remain in the present: 
because the very nature of the act is 
such that you are thrown into the 
present. 
Remain in the present. 
Remain in the moment going nowhere, 
and melt. 
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In the act, close your eyes. 
Feel the other's body, feel the other's energy flowing toward you and be merged in it. Melt in it. It will come. 
Just go on relaxing, relaxing, relaxing, and if there is no ejaculation do not feel 
that something has gone wrong. 
Nothing has gone wrong ! And do not feel that you have missed something; you have not missed. 
Before the valley comes you will feel that you are missing something, but this is just an old habit. Within a period, within a month or three weeks, the valley will start appearing, and when the valley appears you will forget your peaks. 
No peak is worth this. 
But you have to wait, and do not force it and do not control it. 
Just relax. 



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When in such embrace, in such deep communion with the beloved or the 
lover --your senses are shaken as 
leave.s, enter this shaking. 
We have even become afraid: while n1aking love you do not allow your bodies to move much. because if your bodies are allowed much movement the sex act spreads all over your body. 
You can control it when it is localized at the sex center. The mind can remain in control. 
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When it spreads all over your body, you cannot control it. You may start shaking, you may start screaming, and you will 
not be able to control your body onc,e the 
body takes over. 
A great wind is blowing and a tree is. 
shaking. Even the roots are shaking, 
every leaf is shaking. 
Just be like a tree. A great wind is blowing, and sex IS a great wind --a great energy blowing through you. 
Shake! Vibrate! 
Allow every cell of your body to dance. 
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is YOU, your whole being. You become ,, ', the shaking itself. 
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Then there are not two bodies, two minds. "' 
In the beginning, there are two shaking 
energies, and in the end just a circle--not 
two. 
Just move in the sex act: move in it totally; do not leave anything out. 
Become absolutely non-thinking. 
Only then does the awareness happen that you have !become one with someone. And this feeling of oneness can then be detached from the partner and it can be used with the whole universe. 
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You can be in a sex act with a tree, with the moon, with anything. 
Once you know how to create this circle, it can be created with anything ，， even without anything. 

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You can create this circle within yourself because man is both man and woman, and woman is both woman and man. 
You are both because you were created by two. 
You were created by man and woman both, so half of you remains the other. You， can forget everything completely, and the circle can be created within you. 
Once the ，circle is created within you 
(your man is meeting your woman; the 
inner woman is meeting the inner man) 
you are in an embrace within yourself. 
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And only when this circle is created is real celibacy attained. 
When this circle is created inside, 
you are freed. 
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When you come back after a tantric sex act, you have risen, not fallen. 
You feel filled with energy, more vital, more alive, radiant. 
And that ecstasy will last for hours, even for days. It depends on how deeply you were in it. 
One tantric sex experience, and even for days you will feel relaxed --at ease, at home, non-violent, non-angry, 
non-depressed. 
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Tantra says if you move in meditation sex will disappear completely: it can 
， disappear completely. 
The whole energy is being absorbed at higher centers, and your body has many centers. 
Sex is the lowest center and man exists at the lowest center. The more energy 
moves higher, the more the higher centers begin to flower. 
When the same energy comes to the heart , then it becomes love. 
When the same energy comes higher still, 
new dimensions and new experiences 
begin to flower. 
And when the same energy is at the 

highest, at the last peak in your body, it has reached that which Tantra calls 'sahasrar' --the last chakra in the head. 
j :  Sex is the lowest chakra and 'sahasrar' is the highest, and between these two the ， sex energy moves. It can be released from the sex center. When it is released from the sex center you become a cause to reproduce someone else. When the same energy is released from the 'sahasrar', from the head into the Cosmos, you give a new birth to yourself. It is also a reproduction, but not biologically. Then it is spiritually a reproduction. Then you are reborn. In India we used to call such a person twice born -？dwij . Now he has given himself a new birth. . ..  . . :  

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And once you know that bliss, you can go further because now you are grounded in reality. 
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One is not to remain in sex forever, but you can use sex as a jumping point. That is what Tantra means: you can use sex as a jumping point. 
And once you understand the ecstasy 
of sex, you can understand what mystics 
have been talking about--a greater 
orgasm, a cosmic orgasm. 

Many books have been written on Tantra, they all talk about technique. 
But the real Tantra has nothing to do 
with technique. 
The real Tantra cannot be written about, the real Tantra has to be imbibed. 

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The whole of humanity up to now has remained obsessed with sex and it is going to remain so unless we change the whole gestalt. 
Up to now the gestalt has been repression？indulgence, indulgence-repression go on moving between these two. 
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We have to stop exactly in the middle. 
Have you ever tried to stop the pendulum of i.l clock in the middle? 
What happens? 
The clock stops. The time stops. 
That's my effort here. I don't want you to be indulgent and I don't want you to be repressive. I would like you to be balanced just in the middle. 
It is in the middle that transcendence 
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There is no need to use sex only in reproduction. 
In every creation sex is used. 
That is why a great poet, a great 
painter, may not feel so much of an 
urge of sex. But the reason is simply 
this, that he is creating something 
greater and the need is fulfilled. 
Buddha is neither a painter, nor a musician, nor a poet, but he has gone beyond sex. What has happened to him? 
The highest creation is the creation of oneself. The highest creation is the creation of total consciousness within, creation of a whole within, oneness. That is the peak, the Himalayan peak. 
Buddha is at that peak; he has created 
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Because of three basic elements in sex, you come to a blissful moment. 
Those three are, firstly, timelessness: ' you transcend tirne completely. There 1 is no time. You forget time completely;
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the stars--a part! You are immersed ; ' into a greater something--the Cosmos, the Tao. 
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Sex is just a situation in which it happens naturally. 
Once you know and once you can feel these elements. you can create these elements independently of sex. 
All meditation is essentially the 
experience of sex without sex. 
But you have to go through it. It must become a part of your experience; it must not just r12main on the level of cor1cepts, idea-s, thoughts. 
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Your sex energy is the nourishment for your samadhi. 
It is out of the mud of sex that the lotus 
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Knowing your sexuality, one day you will stumble upon your spirituality. Then you will become free. 
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It will be more fun, more joy, more friendship, more a play than a serious affair as it has been in the past. 
Sex is just the beginning, not the end. 
But if you miss the beginning, you will miss the end also.